Film

We Need to Talk About Kevin

Name: We Need to Talk About Kevin
Genre: Drama, Thriller
Released: 2011
Cast: Tilda Swinton, John C. Reilly, Ezra Miller, Siobhan Fallon Hogan, Alex Manette

Tilda Swinton carries this fractured, nonlinear portrait of a mother sifting through memory after her son commits an atrocity. It's less thriller than dread made physical — red paint, red jam, red everywhere — asking an unanswerable question about nature, nurture, and whether love was ever really the point. Cold, formally rigorous, and deeply unsettling rather than cathartic.

TMDb rating

7.5

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