Film

Thou Wast Mild and Lovely

Name: Thou Wast Mild and Lovely
Genre: Thriller, Drama
Released: 2014
Cast: Joe Swanberg, Sophie Traub, Robert Longstreet, Kristin Slaysman, Matt Orme

Drama

A 78-minute slow-burn thriller where a charming newcomer arrives at an isolated farm and quietly destabilizes its fragile peace. Deliberately paced, unsettling without violence, it's a study in how manipulation works beneath politeness. For viewers who prize dread over action and aren't afraid of ambiguity.

TMDb rating

2.7

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