Film

When Harry Met Sally...

Name: When Harry Met Sally...
Genre: Comedy, Romance, Drama
Released: 1989
Cast: Billy Crystal, Meg Ryan, Carrie Fisher, Bruno Kirby, Steven Ford

Romantic comedy
Comedy
Light-hearted

When Harry Met Sally... is the film that turned "can men and women just be friends?" into a decade-spanning conversation, carried almost entirely by talk — walks, diners, phone calls, increasingly personal arguments. Ephron's script is precise and quotable; Reiner shoots it like a duet between two great comic performers. It's funny, romantic, and quietly wise about timing, self-deception, and the slow work of actually knowing someone.

TMDb rating

3.7

Should you watch it?

Watch it if you like romantic comedies built on sharp, talky banter and two characters who argue their way toward each other, with a real affection for the rhythms of old-school New York conversation.

Skip it if you want romance with big gestures, fast plotting or a lot of action, since this one runs on dialogue and a slow accumulation of small moments between two people.

What it asks of you: About ninety-six minutes of patient, conversational attention, with the jokes landing in quick exchanges and the feeling building across years rather than in any single scene.

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