Film

When Harry Met Sally...

Name: When Harry Met Sally...
Genre: Comedy, Romance, Drama
Released: 1989
Cast: Billy Crystal, Meg Ryan, Carrie Fisher, Bruno Kirby, Steven Ford

When Harry Met Sally... is the film that turned "can men and women just be friends?" into a decade-spanning conversation, carried almost entirely by talk — walks, diners, phone calls, increasingly personal arguments. Ephron's script is precise and quotable; Reiner shoots it like a duet between two great comic performers. It's funny, romantic, and quietly wise about timing, self-deception, and the slow work of actually knowing someone.

TMDb rating

7.4

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