Film

You've Got Mail

Name: You've Got Mail
Genre: Comedy, Romance
Released: 1998
Cast: Meg Ryan, Tom Hanks, Greg Kinnear, Parker Posey, Heather Burns

Nora Ephron's late-90s rom-com pairs Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan as anonymous email pen pals who don't realize they're business enemies in real life — he's the megastore mogul threatening to bulldoze her beloved indie bookshop. It's autumnal, cozy, gently funny, and unbothered by cynicism. Comfort viewing for people who like their romance literate, low-stakes, and full of Upper West Side charm.

TMDb rating

6.7

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