Film

The Story of Us

Name: The Story of Us
Genre: Drama, Comedy, Romance
Released: 1999
Cast: Bruce Willis, Michelle Pfeiffer, Rob Reiner, Colleen Rennison, Jake Sandvig

A marriage at the breaking point. After fifteen years together, Ben and Katie have become strangers—still performing contentment for the kids, still sharing a bed, but utterly disconnected. When their children leave for summer camp, they finally stop pretending and confront whether staying together makes sense. It's funny and sad in unequal measure, anchored by two excellent actors who understand that real relationships die in small moments, not dramatic ones.

TMDb rating

3.1

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