Film

Crossing Delancey

Name: Crossing Delancey
Genre: Comedy, Romance
Released: 1988
Cast: Amy Irving, Peter Riegert, Reizl Bozyk, Jeroen Krabbé, Sylvia Miles

Romantic comedy
Light-hearted

Crossing Delancey is a gentle, funny New York romance about a bookish thirty-something torn between a suave literary crush and the pickle-shop owner her grandmother's matchmaker keeps pushing on her. It's less about who she picks than about outgrowing the idea that sophistication equals worth. Warm, unhurried, and full of Lower East Side texture — perfect for anyone who likes their romantic comedies with real grandmothers in them.

TMDb rating

3.0

Should you watch it?

Watch it if you enjoy small, talky romantic comedies where the charm lives in sharp dialogue, family meddling and a love story that takes its time finding the right person.

Skip it if you need a fast pace or big set pieces, since this is a quiet, conversational film about one woman weighing two very different suitors across a short runtime.

What it asks of you: Settle in for about ninety-seven minutes of unhurried talk, with long conversations and little plot machinery, and let the rhythm of the city and the family kitchen do the work.

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