Film

The Kids Are All Right

Name: The Kids Are All Right
Genre: Comedy, Drama
Released: 2010
Cast: Julianne Moore, Annette Bening, Mark Ruffalo, Mia Wasikowska, Josh Hutcherson

A wry, tender comedy-drama about a long-married lesbian couple whose household gets shaken loose when their teenage kids track down the sperm donor who fathered them. It's less about scandal than about marriage's ordinary fatigue and the strange elasticity of family. Funny, sharply observed, occasionally painful — a film for anyone who likes their domestic dramas with real teeth.

TMDb rating

6.6

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