Film

Disobedience

Name: Disobedience
Genre: Drama, Romance
Released: 2018
Cast: Rachel Weisz, Rachel McAdams, Alessandro Nivola, Allan Corduner, Anton Lesser

A hushed, aching drama about a woman who returns to the Orthodox community that once shunned her, and to the love she never resolved with the friend now trapped in a marriage there. Sebastián Lelio directs Weisz and McAdams with restraint rather than melodrama, weighing faith against desire without villains. For anyone who wants their romance slow-burning and morally complicated.

TMDb rating

6.9

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