Film

45 Years

Name: 45 Years
Genre: Drama, Romance
Released: 2015
Cast: Charlotte Rampling, Tom Courtenay, Geraldine James, Dolly Wells, David Sibley

A drama of exquisite dread: one letter, one week before a 45th wedding anniversary party, and a marriage's foundations start to shift. Andrew Haigh directs with excruciating patience, trusting Rampling and Courtenay's faces to carry the weight. It's slow, precise and devastating — for viewers willing to sit with silences rather than shouting matches.

TMDb rating

6.6

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