Film

Rachel Getting Married

Name: Rachel Getting Married
Genre: Drama, Romance
Released: 2008
Cast: Anne Hathaway, Rosemarie DeWitt, Bill Irwin, Debra Winger, Tunde Adebimpe

Jonathan Demme's handheld, wedding-weekend drama pulls Kym home from rehab straight into the middle of her sister's marriage, and the camera never leaves the room. It feels eavesdropped rather than staged—real toasts, real arguments, music drifting through open windows. Anne Hathaway is raw and unflattering. For anyone who wants family dysfunction to feel lived-in, not scripted.

TMDb rating

6.3

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