Film

You Hurt My Feelings

Name: You Hurt My Feelings
Genre: Drama, Comedy, Romance
Released: 2023
Cast: Julia Louis-Dreyfus, Tobias Menzies, Michaela Watkins, Arian Moayed, Owen Teague

A witty, tender film about the small earthquakes that rupture long marriages. Julia Louis-Dreyfus is a novelist whose husband finally tells her the truth about her book—and everything unravels from there. It's funny without being cruel, honest without being brutal, and deeply interested in how we lie to people we love.

TMDb rating

3.2

Should you watch it?

Watch it if you enjoy small, precise comedy about politeness and the white lies couples tell, where the awkwardness is funnier than any punchline and the feelings underneath are real.

Skip it if you want big set pieces or a brisk plot, since this runs mostly on talk and long, wincing silences that some will find slow.

What it asks of you: Expect a short, unhurried ride of about ninety minutes that stays low-key and mostly light, with its sharpest moments arriving in small glances rather than big confrontations.

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