Film

I Used to Go Here

Name: I Used to Go Here
Genre: Comedy, Drama, Romance
Released: 2020
Cast: Gillian Jacobs, Josh Wiggins, Jemaine Clement, Hannah Marks, Forrest Goodluck

Cringe comedy

A 35-year-old writer's homecoming to her college becomes a comic and melancholic reckoning with time, ambition, and the person she thought she'd be. Gillian Jacobs carries a film that's genuinely interested in the specific sting of middling success and the people who never left the place you've outgrown. Tender and funny in ways that creep up on you.

TMDb rating

2.8

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