Film

Straight Up

Name: Straight Up
Genre: Comedy, Romance
Released: 2020
Cast: Katie Findlay, James Sweeney, Dana Drori, James Scully, Joshua Diaz

A sharp, talky comedy about a gay man who decides he might be straight to avoid dying alone, and the actress he convinces to date him despite having no physical attraction. Witty, neurotic, deliberately stilted in its performances, and genuinely tender beneath the intellectual defense mechanisms. For people who think fast and feel deeply.

TMDb rating

3.5

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