Film

The Wedding Banquet

Name: The Wedding Banquet
Genre: Comedy, Drama, Romance
Released: 1993
Cast: Gua Ah-leh, Lung Sihung, May Chin, Winston Chao, Mitchell Lichtenstein

Ang Lee's breakout comedy follows Wai-Tung, a gay Taiwanese-American man in New York, who stages a green-card marriage to placate his traditional parents — only for the fake wedding to spiral into real, tender chaos when they fly in to throw the whole event themselves. It's funny, generous, and quietly devastating about the lies families tell each other out of love.

TMDb rating

7.2

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