Film

Tell Me Who I Am

Name: Tell Me Who I Am
Genre: Documentary, Drama, Mystery
Released: 2019
Cast: Alex Lewis, Marcus Lewis, Andrew Caley, Kathleen Rainey, Thomas Mulhurn

Alex Lewis lost his memory after a violent assault, and for over a decade his twin, Marcus, told him who he'd been — leaving out one detail. This quiet, devastating documentary is about that omission and what it costs both brothers when it finally surfaces. Slow-building, deeply intimate, and handled with real tenderness rather than sensationalism. Watch it for the brotherhood, brace for the reveal.

TMDb rating

7.3

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