Film

Truly Madly Deeply

Name: Truly Madly Deeply
Genre: Fantasy, Drama, Comedy, Romance
Released: 1991
Cast: Juliet Stevenson, Alan Rickman, Michael Maloney, Bill Paterson, Christopher Rozycki

A ghost story that mistakes itself for a rom-com and turns out to be exactly right. Nina's dead boyfriend Jamie comes back, cello and all, and the film settles into something stranger than grief or comedy alone — the slow, funny, sad realisation that mourning someone means eventually letting them go. Rickman is tender and infuriating. Small, British, unhurried, and it sneaks up on you.

TMDb rating

6.9

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