Film

If Only

Name: If Only
Genre: Drama, Romance, Fantasy
Released: 2004
Cast: Jennifer Love Hewitt, Paul Nicholls, Tom Wilkinson, Diana Hardcastle, Lucy Davenport

A grief-stricken man wakes to relive the day his girlfriend died in a car accident, armed with a second chance to prevent the tragedy. It's a tender, melancholic fantasy that treats its premise seriously—no winking, no spectacular time-loop comedy. For anyone who's ever replayed an argument and wished for a do-over, it cuts close.

TMDb rating

3.5

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