Film

The Tao of Steve

Name: The Tao of Steve
Genre: Comedy, Romance
Released: 2000
Cast: Donal Logue, Ayelet Kaznelson, John Hines, John Harrington Bland, Jessica Gormley

Comedy
Light-hearted

A charmingly offbeat romantic comedy about a charismatic college dropout turned kindergarten teacher who lives by his own philosophy of effortless seduction—until he meets someone who actually makes him want to change. Donal Logue carries this quirky, low-key film with genuine warmth. It's gentle, funny, and weird enough to stick with you.

TMDb rating

3.1

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