Film

The Mother

Name: The Mother
Genre: Drama, Romance
Released: 2003
Cast: Anne Reid, Daniel Craig, Peter Vaughan, Steven Mackintosh, Cathryn Bradshaw

Other titles called The Mother: the 1956 film, the 2023 film.

A 60-year-old woman breaks free from decades of quiet duty and begins a searing affair with a younger man—one her daughter is also involved with. It's uncompromising and tender simultaneously, watching desire remake someone late in life. Uncomfortable, sometimes brutal, absolutely vital for anyone interested in how bodies and hearts age.

TMDb rating

3.0

Should you watch it?

Watch it if you like unsentimental portraits of middle-aged appetite, where a quiet domestic drama turns frank and uncomfortable and the performances carry more than the plot does.

Skip it if you want brisk pacing or a warm heart, since it lingers on awkward moods and rarely lets its characters off the hook.

What it asks of you: Settle in for just under two hours of slow, observational scenes, where the tone stays dry and watchful and much of the weight sits in faces rather than speeches.

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Secrets & Lies1996

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Last Chance Harvey2008

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The Breakfast Club1985

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But A teen film from the 80s. The concerns aren't yours, and the production can feel corny if you're not in the right mood.

About Time2013

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Swimming Pool2003

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The Fountain2006

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Friday Night2002

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