Film

How Stella Got Her Groove Back

Name: How Stella Got Her Groove Back
Genre: Drama, Comedy, Romance
Released: 1998
Cast: Angela Bassett, Taye Diggs, Whoopi Goldberg, Regina King, Suzzanne Douglas

A glossy, feel-good grown-up romance built on the tension between responsibility and desire. Angela Bassett is magnetic as a driven single mother who takes a trip to Jamaica at her best friend's urging and falls hard for a much younger man. It's sun-drenched escapism with real ache underneath — about grief, ambition, and permission to want something for yourself. Good for a rainy Sunday and a glass of wine.

TMDb rating

5.8

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