Film

The Best Intentions

Name: The Best Intentions
Genre: Drama, Romance
Released: 1992
Cast: Samuel Fröler, Pernilla August, Max von Sydow, Ghita Nørby, Lennart Hjulström

Bergman's three-hour portrait of his own parents' marriage—a poor theology student and a wealthy woman who marry for love, only to discover that devotion and duty cannot bridge the gap between their worlds. Intimate, unflinching, gorgeously shot. A film about how two good people can slowly break each other without malice. For anyone who believes the best love stories are the ones that hurt.

TMDb rating

3.5

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