Film

The Art of Getting By

Name: The Art of Getting By
Genre: Drama, Romance
Released: 2011
Cast: Freddie Highmore, Emma Roberts, Michael Angarano, Elizabeth Reaser, Alicia Silverstone

Coming-of-age

A tender, melancholic romance about two teenage misfits in New York—one brilliant and paralysed by existential dread, the other popular but fracturing underneath. Understated and earnest, occasionally frustrating in its refusal to resolve things neatly. For people who loved *The Perks of Being a Wallflower* but want something quieter and stranger.

TMDb rating

3.3

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