Film

Meet the Patels

Name: Meet the Patels
Genre: Romance, Comedy, Documentary
Released: 2014
Cast: Ravi Patel, Geeta Patel, Champa V. Patel, Vasant K. Patel, Audrey Wauchope

Romantic comedy
Comedy
Light-hearted

Meet the Patels is a scrappy, funny home-movie documentary: actor Ravi Patel lets his sister film him as their mother tries to marry him off within the wider Gujarati Patel diaspora. Shot on consumer cameras with hand-drawn animation stitched in, it's cringingly intimate and unexpectedly moving — a real family arguing about love on camera, no talking heads required.

TMDb rating

3.5

Should you watch it?

Watch it if you enjoy warm, self-deprecating personal documentaries where the filmmaker's own family is the subject and the jokes come out of real embarrassment about parents, tradition and dating.

Skip it if you want a tight, rigorous account of arranged marriage or immigration, since this is loose, chatty and built around one man's romantic anxiety, and it wanders.

What it asks of you: Roughly ninety minutes of cheerful digression: it moves between family dinners, a convention hall and a wedding season in India, rewarding patience with its people more than its plot.

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