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Let My People Go !

A French-Finnish comedy about Ruben, a Jewish gay man caught between family expectations, romantic confusion, and existential uncertainty. Warm and ungainly, it finds humour in identity crisis and the gap between who we're supposed to be and who we actually are. For anyone who's felt simultaneously too much themselves and not enough of anything.

TMDb rating2.6

Should you watch it?

Watch it if you enjoy farce about a man too tangled in family, faith and romance to know what he wants, told with a restless, sideways comic energy and a cast of eccentric relatives.

Skip it if you want a tidy, plot-driven comedy, since this one drifts episodically and can feel more like a string of sketches than a story.

What it asks of you: Ninety-six minutes of brisk, episodic scenes circling one restless question, so it rewards attention to small gestures and a willingness to follow its shifting moods.

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