Film

Adoption

Name: Adoption
Genre: Drama
Released: 1975
Cast: Katalin Berek, Gyöngyvér Vigh, Péter Fried, Szabó László, Flóra Kádár

Drama
Slow-burning

Márta Mészáros's spare, searching portrait of a middle-aged woman whose hunger for motherhood becomes inseparable from her awakening to herself. Kata's affair with a married man and her bond with a troubled teenager form the edges of a film about desire, complicity, and the stories women tell themselves. Quietly devastating.

TMDb rating

3.4

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