Film

Adam

Name: Adam
Genre: Drama, Romance
Released: 2009
Cast: Hugh Dancy, Rose Byrne, Peter Gallagher, Amy Irving, Frankie Faison

A quiet love story about Adam, a man with Asperger's navigating work, family, and sudden connection with his neighbor Beth. It's tender and observant rather than sentimental—grounded in specific details of how Adam experiences the world. For anyone who's felt like an outsider, or loved someone who has.

TMDb rating

3.4

Should you watch it?

Watch it if you are drawn to quiet romances where the awkwardness is the point and two careful people slowly learn each other's rhythms, even when that rhythm stalls.

Skip it if you need plot momentum; this moves at a patient, conversational pace with few big set pieces and little external drama to carry it along.

What it asks of you: Settle in for a short, unhurried ninety-nine minutes, with long stretches of quiet looks and awkward pauses that you have to sit through rather than skip.

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Her2013

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The Big Bang Theory2007

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Please Stand By2018

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But Low budget shows in places. The indie sweetness some find affecting, others find saccharine.

The Perks of Being a Wallflower2012

Outsider protagonist finding their people through friendship and love. Different flavor—high school, more exuberant—but the same core of loneliness recognized and met. Perfectly cast, genuinely moving without trying too hard.

But Has dated slightly. The manic pixie dream girl energy, even handled well, doesn't land the same way anymore.

Lovely & Amazing2002

Three sisters, messy family dynamics, unexpected romance. Catherine Keener and Emily Mortimer are extraordinary. It's funny and sad in the same breath—relationships as complicated as real life makes them.

But Very quiet, very unglamorous. If you want plot momentum or a clear emotional arc, you'll be frustrated.

About a Boy2002

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But Could be slicker and less interesting. Some of the humor undercuts the emotional moments.

Beginners2011

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Once2007

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Synecdoche, New York2008

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