Film

You're Not You

Name: You're Not You
Genre: Drama
Released: 2014
Cast: Hilary Swank, Emmy Rossum, Josh Duhamel, Stephanie Beatriz, Julian McMahon

Medical drama

A pianist diagnosed with ALS hires a chaotic young caregiver, and their unlikely friendship becomes transformative for both. It's a character-driven drama about living fully when time feels finite, anchored by genuine chemistry between its leads. For anyone who believes the best stories happen between people, not to them.

TMDb rating

3.7

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