Film

The Tender Bar

Name: The Tender Bar
Genre: Drama
Released: 2021
Cast: Ben Affleck, Tye Sheridan, Daniel Ranieri, Lily Rabe, Christopher Lloyd

Coming-of-age

A coming-of-age story about a fatherless boy who finds masculinity and mentorship in his charismatic uncle, a bartender, while his mother claws toward respectability. It's tender and unglamorous, anchored by Ben Affleck's weathered charm and a genuine sense of place. For anyone who understands that family can be found in the strangest corners.

TMDb rating

3.3

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