Film

Perfect Strangers

Name: Perfect Strangers
Genre: Drama, Romance
Released: 1945
Cast: Robert Donat, Deborah Kerr, Glynis Johns, Ann Todd, Roland Culver

Other titles called Perfect Strangers: the 1986 series (ABC), the 2016 film.

A 1945 British drama about a married couple reuniting after wartime separation, only to find themselves fundamentally changed. Robert Donat and Deborah Kerr navigate the gap between who they were and who they've become, with tenderness and quietly devastating honesty. It's intimate, unhurried, and captures the specific ache of loving someone you no longer fully know.

TMDb rating

3.3

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