Film

Living

Name: Living
Genre: Drama
Released: 2022
Cast: Bill Nighy, Aimee Lou Wood, Alex Sharp, Tom Burke, Adrian Rawlins

Drama
Slow-burning

A 1953 London civil servant learns he's dying and begins to question a lifetime of careful conformity and emotional numbness. Bill Nighy delivers a quietly devastating performance as a man discovering what it means to truly live. Achingly tender, formally precise, and entirely without sentimentality—a film about regret that feels like grace.

TMDb rating

3.5

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