Film

I'll See You in My Dreams

Name: I'll See You in My Dreams
Genre: Drama, Comedy
Released: 2015
Cast: Blythe Danner, Martin Starr, June Squibb, Rhea Perlman, Mary Kay Place

A widow in her seventies rediscovers herself after twenty years of quiet grief, awkwardly stumbling into romance and friendship. Blythe Danner anchors a film that treats aging with unsentimental warmth: messy, funny, sometimes sad, never patronizing. For anyone who's worried that life ends when love does, or that reinvention requires youth.

TMDb rating

3.1

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