Film

Everybody's Fine

Name: Everybody's Fine
Genre: Drama
Released: 2009
Cast: Robert De Niro, Drew Barrymore, Kate Beckinsale, Sam Rockwell, Melissa Leo

Family drama

A widower drives across America to visit his four adult children, only to discover their lives are far messier than their phone calls suggested. It's a quietly devastating portrait of how we perform for our parents, and what happens when the performance cracks. Tender, sometimes painful, for anyone who's ever had to admit they're struggling.

TMDb rating

3.4

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