Film

Spanking the Monkey

Name: Spanking the Monkey
Genre: Comedy, Drama
Released: 1994
Cast: Jeremy Davies, Alberta Watson, Benjamin Hendrickson, Carla Gallo, Matthew Puckett

Coming-of-age

David O. Russell's debut is a squirm-inducing dark comedy about a med student trapped caring for his recuperating mother, where family obligation metastasizes into something far more unsettling. It's uncomfortable by design—funny and deeply sad in ways that don't resolve neatly. For viewers who can stomach moral ambiguity and psychological discomfort as entertainment.

TMDb rating

2.9

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