Film

Sleeping with the Enemy

Name: Sleeping with the Enemy
Genre: Drama, Thriller
Released: 1991
Cast: Julia Roberts, Patrick Bergin, Kevin Anderson, Elizabeth Lawrence, Kyle Secor

Psychological thriller
Very dark

Julia Roberts fakes her own drowning to escape a husband whose obsessive tidiness is a warning sign long before his fists are. What opens as a glossy early-90s reinvention story turns into a taut stalking picture once Patrick Bergin realises she survived. Slick, propulsive, occasionally silly, and built entirely around the dread of someone finding you again.

TMDb rating

3.3

Should you watch it?

Watch it if you want a tense, well-built suspense story where the dread comes from ordinary domestic routine, and you don't mind a thriller that rests on one fierce central performance.

Skip it if you want brisk escapism, since its domestic cruelty builds slowly and is hard to sit through, with little relief between the tense stretches.

What it asks of you: It asks for patience with a long build before the tension peaks, and for steady attention to a marriage that is quietly unbearable long before anything dramatic happens.

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