Film

It's Not You

Name: It's Not You
Genre: Drama
Released: 2015
Cast: Humberly González, Cynthia Jimenez-Hicks, Emma Laishram

A sharp 13-minute drama about the patterns we repeat in relationships, following the cyclical nature of breakups and reconciliations. It's intimate and observational, built on strong performances that catch the small moments where connection frays. For anyone who's recognised themselves in their own romantic history.

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Heartbeats2010

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Mulholland Drive2001

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Lynch's puzzle-box about identity and repetition, where the same woman lives two different lives. It shares your film's interest in cycles and patterns, but inverts it into nightmare logic and visual abstraction.

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