Film

Goldfish Memory

Name: Goldfish Memory
Genre: Comedy, Drama, Romance
Released: 2003
Cast: Fiona O'Shaughnessy, Flora Montgomery, Fiona Glascott, Jean Butler, Sean Campion

A Dublin ensemble comedy about four friends navigating the messiness of modern love—straight, gay, lesbian, bisexual, all equally chaotic. It's warm, funny, and genuinely interested in how people stumble through desire and commitment. For anyone who's ever wondered if the problem is them or just love itself.

TMDb rating

2.9

Should you watch it?

Watch it if you enjoy small, talky ensemble comedies about friends fumbling through love, where the humour comes from awkward honesty rather than plot machinery.

Skip it if you want a film with a strong throughline or fast pacing, since this one drifts between couples and conversations and may feel loose to anyone expecting tighter structure.

What it asks of you: At 85 minutes it is short and unhurried, asking you to sit with many small exchanges and to keep track of who is with whom as the pairings shift.

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