Film

Anywhere but Here

Name: Anywhere but Here
Genre: Drama, Comedy, Romance
Released: 1999
Cast: Susan Sarandon, Natalie Portman, Hart Bochner, Eileen Ryan, Ray Baker

Drama

A mother-daughter dramedy about impulsive dreaming and grudging love. Susan Sarandon plays a flighty fantasist; Natalie Portman her exasperated, grounded teenage daughter. They clash constantly as they chase Hollywood dreams in Beverly Hills. It's warm and messy, funny without being cute, about how people who love each other can drive each other absolutely up the wall. For anyone who's felt stuck between someone else's chaos and their own need for stability.

TMDb rating

3.1

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