Film

A Very Long Engagement

Name: A Very Long Engagement
Genre: Drama, Romance, War
Released: 2004
Cast: Audrey Tautou, Gaspard Ulliel, Dominique Pinon, Chantal Neuwirth, André Dussollier

A young woman investigates the fate of her fiancé, missing since WWI, refusing to accept he's dead. Jeunet's visual feast transforms grief into mystery and hope into obsession. A love story told backward through detective work, registers as both intimate and epic. For those who want romance that means something and aren't afraid of gorgeous sadness.

TMDb rating

3.7

Should you watch it?

Watch it if you love a story that threads many small characters and sly, tender detours into one stubborn quest, the way Jean-Pierre Jeunet's whimsical craft lets sorrow and hope share a frame.

Skip it if you want a lean, forward-driving plot; this one wanders through many side stories and a long runtime, and its gentle whimsy can feel indulgent when the war is grinding on in the background.

What it asks of you: Settle in for over two hours of patient, digressive storytelling that moves between many characters and time, rewarding attention more than it rushes toward answers.

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