Film
Love! Valour! Compassion!
A summer-house drama centered on a close-knit group of gay men navigating love, desire, and friendship across three long weekends upstate. Tender and frank, with real humor and real pain. It's a film about belonging and the quiet devastation of proximity—watching people you love become strangers, or worse. For anyone who's been part of a chosen family.
Should you watch it?
Watch it if you enjoy talky, character-driven ensemble pieces where the pleasure lies in sharp dialogue and friends bickering their way through affection and resentment, much like the stage-born warmth of Neil Simon's group portraits.
Skip it if you want a plot that drives forward, since this is mostly conversation, lingering afternoons and small confrontations, and little happens in the way of event or momentum.
What it asks of you: It runs about an hour and forty-eight minutes and rewards patience, settling into a leisurely, mostly indoor rhythm where you need to keep track of several overlapping personalities.
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People
Cast
Jason AlexanderBuzz Hauser
Stephen SpinellaPerry Sellars
Stephen BogardusGregory Mitchell- Randy BeckerRamon Fornos
John Benjamin HickeyArthur Page
Justin KirkBobby Brahms
John GloverJohn & James Jeckyll
Directing
- Joe MantelloDirector
Writing
- Terrence McNallyScreenplay
- Terrence McNallyTheatre Play
Production
- Diane ConnLine Producer
- Barry KrostProducer
- Doug ChapinProducer