Film

Holding the Man

Name: Holding the Man
Genre: Drama
Released: 2015
Cast: Ryan Corr, Craig Stott, Guy Pearce, Sarah Snook, Anthony LaPaglia

A tender, clear-eyed portrait of a 15-year love story between two men, from their teenage meeting through to adulthood, as they navigate prejudice, separation, and ultimately illness. It's intimate and unflinching without being punishing—a film that trusts its audience to sit with quiet moments and genuine joy alongside the heartbreak. For anyone who believes love stories matter.

TMDb rating

3.9

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