Film

Father of My Children

Name: Father of My Children
Genre: Drama
Released: 2009
Cast: Louis-Do de Lencquesaing, Chiara Caselli, Alice de Lencquesaing, Alice Gautier, Manelle Driss

Drama

A French film producer's carefully constructed life collapses when his production company fails, forcing a reckoning between the artistic ideals that defined him and the family depending on him. Mia Hansen-Løve's film is intimate and devastating—a portrait of masculine pride meeting reality, watched through the eyes of those who love him most. For anyone who's seen a dream die.

TMDb rating

3.3

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