Film

Between a Rock and a Hard Place

Name: Between a Rock and a Hard Place
Genre: Drama
Released: 2019
Cast: Ghita Nørby, Jeanne Rasmussen, Charlotte Fich, Mikkel Vadsholt

Drama
Very dark

A 19-minute Danish short about an 81-year-old woman with dementia fighting to keep custody of her adult daughter with Down syndrome. It's a tender, unsentimental look at interdependence, aging, and the bureaucratic machinery that separates people who need each other. Essential viewing for anyone navigating elder care or disability systems.

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