Film

Soldier's Girl

Name: Soldier's Girl
Genre: TV Movie, Drama, Romance, Crime
Released: 2003
Cast: Troy Garity, Lee Pace, Andre Braugher, Shawn Hatosy, Philip Eddolls

A 2003 drama about soldier Barry Winchell's relationship with Calpernia Addams, a transgender performer, and the fatal consequences of their love in a military culture hostile to difference. Intimate and clear-eyed, it refuses both sentimentality and condemnation. For anyone moved by stories where love collides with institutional cruelty.

TMDb rating

3.5

Should you watch it?

Watch it if you want a hard-edged, carefully observed true story about love and prejudice inside an army barracks, where the acting does the heavy lifting.

Skip it if you need a light touch or a fast pace, since this is a slow, sombre film that lingers on prejudice and stays with its heavy subject throughout.

What it asks of you: Just under two hours of patient, unshowy scenes that build slowly, with little relief and a lot of attention given to small looks and silences.

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