Film

Shiva Baby

Name: Shiva Baby
Genre: Comedy, Drama
Released: 2021
Cast: Rachel Sennott, Molly Gordon, Polly Draper, Danny Deferrari, Fred Melamed

Cringe comedy

A claustrophobic comedy about a college student whose secret life implodes when she runs into her sugar daddy at a family shiva. It's a 78-minute anxiety spiral that finds genuine warmth amid the mortification, powered by Rachel Sennott's fearless performance. Smart, cringe-funny, and deeply attuned to how much we lie to the people closest to us.

TMDb rating

3.5

Should you watch it?

Watch it if you love cringe comedy built from social panic, where a single room full of relatives becomes a pressure cooker and every awkward glance lands like a punchline.

Skip it if you need plot to keep moving, since this is mostly a crowded room of talk and the discomfort is the point.

What it asks of you: It runs a brisk 78 minutes and stays inside one gathering, so it asks for your full attention on faces and small silences rather than big set pieces.

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